1: Add photos
Whilst it can be useful to search for profiles without photos (they receive much less attention than profiles with photos), you’ll get plenty more online action if you upload a few snaps. Not only do they show people what you look like and what you’re interested in, a lot of sites will offer to filter out profiles from search results, based on a lack of photos. When uploading your pictures, it’s a good idea to think about the background as well as what you look like. Showing holiday snaps, or images of you doing something you love (walking, sailing, gaming, in a book shop and so on) will click with people who share your love, showing them you’re involved with those activities.
2: Mention hobbies and interests
As with uploading photos of yourself ‘doing things you enjoy’, naming these hobbies and interests is a great way to attract potential dates. These will give a glimpse into your life, and the more specific you can be, the better. Many dating websites have thousands or even millions of members, so you need to stand out from the crowd. Saying “I like movies” is fine, but… come on, who doesn’t like movies? Also, surely you don’t like all movies. If you’re into horror movies, say that. Even better, if you enjoy specific films more than others, or have a favorite director, let everyone know! We’re more inclined towards people who are similar to us and who share similar values, so being specific about the things you like will help to build this bond before you’ve even said hello.
3: Say what you’re looking for
You might not want to go in too heavy with this advice (shouting “I want to get married and have kids right away” for example, may not attract much positive attention), but being clear about what you’re looking for might serve you well. You don’t need to focus on the long term, but suggesting the kind of person you’re hoping to meet will help to filter the attention you receive, saving you time by not having to trawl through profiles and messages from people you’d never be interested in. If you have a particular lifestyle you’d like a partner to share – perhaps you enjoy healthy eating or fine dining – it’s worth saying this on your profile page! In contrast, being too picky might limit the number of people who contact you (potentially to your detriment), although it should mean you won’t hear from people who have no interest in your particulars.
4: Have a sense of humour and fun
People are usually looking for a date or partner because they want to have fun and enjoy themselves. Whilst people might prefer a sober philosophical conversation now and again, it’s probably not the case on a dating website. It’s wise to be cautious about being overly negative too, which can be a bit of a turn-off for a lot of people. It can be attractive to laugh with someone, to have fun and seem as though you’ll be fun to be around. Everyone has a sense of humour and personality, and it doesn’t have to be silly or over the top. Sharing your humour, general approach to life and outlook on things can be a great way to locate a good dating match.
5: Avoid brags and put-downs
Okay this might be a bit of a personal preference for us. We know that some people find confidence attractive, but there’s a big difference between confidence and overt bragging. Showing off might appear big-headed and off-putting for a lot of members because it can seem disingenuous or false. Meanwhile, putting yourself down can seem quite negative or attention-seeking, which again might be a turn-off for some people. Your dating profile is a way to tell others about what you do and what you like. If they’re interested in that, the rest should follow.
Your dating profile is a two-way street. It’s an opportunity to share information about your life and preferences, but it’s also a tool to help your ideal dates to find you. It’s not just about how many messages and likes you get, but who you’re receiving them from.