Finding a date online might not seem all that easy. For many, it’s a new venture and it can seem intimidating. The truth is, a lot of people are in the same boat and there’s no magic formula to catching your ideal fish. However, there are a few things which you can do which ought to improve your chances.
Here are our top 5 tips for finding a date online…
1: Choose the right dating site for you
There are literally hundreds of dating sites out there. Some are good, some aren’t so good. Many of them are themed, others are generic. If you’re looking for a particular kind of person (someone who enjoys fitness, someone older, someone looking to raise a family and so on) then you might wish to consider seeking out a site which specialises in linking those people together. If you’re more willing to see who and what is on offer from a broad spectrum, a more general dating website is a good call. The biggest sites will offer more choice, but that isn’t to say that smaller sites won’t offer some great tools to help you find dates. Don’t just run in and sign up for the first site you see, take some time to choose which one suits you best. Many provide free trials, which is a good way to put your toe in the water without diving in.
2: Change your search filters
It’s easy to get stuck into simply refreshing the search results and browsing the same old profiles. It’s best to avoid doing that too regularly because you’re missing out on a lot of profiles you might not otherwise explore. Try mixing things up a bit, change what your preferences might be, widen them or narrow them to see how that affects your results. It’s also worth considering automated matched, which will throw you a few members you wouldn’t have looked at due to them being blocked out by your current search parameters. If that fails, throw yourself a curve ball and tick a few boxes which you wouldn’t normally choose.
3: Stay positive, be yourself
It’s a cliché, but it’s true. If you pretend to be someone you’re not, you’ll just be found out in the long-term. And chances are, you won’t enjoy yourself if you’re putting on an act. Your dates need to like you for who you are, not someone you’re pretending to be. That’s not to say you can’t try new things or be open minded, but if you really dislike jogging, for example, don’t pretend you’re a marathon runner just to impress someone else. Another tip is to stay positive. Finding the right person can take a while, and nobody likes a grump. Simple things like smiling in photos, being playful rather than gloomy, are generally more attractive and may help to keep your conversations cheerful and engaging.
4: Engage with the community
A number of dating websites offer community features, such as forums, blog posts, meet-ups, online social events and more. Whilst you don’t need to go crazy and attend everything, it’s a good idea to check these out and to post a few messages now and then. It’s another way to get in touch with people based on more than your profile page, and shows them that you’re interested in chatting about a range of topics. Some sites also offer the option of writing and publishing blog posts, which can be fun to read or write and also allow members to make contact on a specific topic.
5: Complete your profile page
When dating online, so much of the information you learn about someone (at least at first) comes from their profile page. A lack of information will hamper your efforts to let people know who and what you’re hoping to find from the site. This is your advert, your chance to express yourself and show off your best traits. Uploading photos and providing information on hobbies and interests is a great idea if you want to find people who share your interests. Another reason to update your profile page is to make sure you appear in other members’ search results. Without this basic information, the system might miss you out, and members won’t know about you.
Finding a date online may take time, but it’s worth the effort. Choose the best site for you and then get fully involved to improve your chances of finding a date!